Moments with God 
“Because You Matter”

By Nina Roach

Let God Help Your Husband Through You

September 6, 2017 

Now is the time to forgive this man and help him back on his feet. If all you do is pour on the guilt, you could very well drown him in it. My counsel now is to pour on the love. 2 Corinthians 2:7-8 The Message

I was waiting on God, but God was waiting on me. It would have been easier I thought if God would have sent someone else on my behalf to my husband on his job, in the grocery store and his fun places of habitation. Oh no! That wasn’t God’s plan for me in my marriage, He wanted to use the impartations that I received from Him as well as the fruit of the Holy Spirit to reach my Frank. You know like, love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.

I thought aloud, “God you have really missed it here!” This meant that I now had to choose the direction of the results that I wanted to experience in my marriage as I had grown weary of all of the dysfunction and dishonor in my marriage. It really is true that what we tolerate from ourselves we also permit from others. I was tolerating selfishness and not willing to budge though God wanted to do some incredible things with my husband and me. 

I am so glad that I surrendered and laid my pride to the side and gave Christ the Healer my broken, wounded and unforgiving heart. I had stored up so much pain and anger within me. And a lot of it had come even prior to my marriage. I didn’t discover that either until my heart was softened enough and I could hear from the Holy Spirit and let Him get to the root of it all. I am not sure why I am sharing this today of all days, but I believe someone needs to read this and be encouraged and get your hope back. It’s never too late to let God divinely intervene in your personal life and marriage. One of the things that I love most about God is that He is a gentleman. He doesn’t trespass and enter your situation though He sees what is happening. He needs our permission.

God isn’t a bully though He is sovereign. We must give Him access which authorizes Him to move on our behalf and bring about the good in our lives and marriages. Sometimes our own pain prevents Him to do so as well as our refusal. I would never have experienced celebrating 30 years of marriage if I didn’t let God help my husband through me. Like me, you are not just your husband’s helper, you are God’s helper too. A helper that makes sacrifices in order to experience successful outcomes.

To this day I am that Proverbs 31 noble wife where my husband heralds his praises to God because of me. He attributes the changes in his life to my changes that I decided to make in my life for our marriage, he realized that he could no longer resist the God in me that he saw reaching out to love him, be kind and generous to him, show patience, listen to him and display so much compassion. My husband’s heart was pierced by the wooing of the Holy Spirit many years ago and today I still have a new man because of the new Man living big on the inside of him.

At times it overwhelms me by the changes that God has done for my husband and I. As I look back, I have no regrets from that one decision, God used me to save my whole household. As one pastor said many times while I was sitting in his congregation, “You make the choice and let God make the changes.” I still live by those words of wisdom. And today you can too. 

Take a moment with God…

In what areas of your personal life or marriage would the Holy Spirit ask you in this moment to let Him help you? No need to rush through your response. Just ponder over the question for a minute, as you may have grown weary and your desire may be to dismiss it all. Imagine the Holy Spirit’s gentle presence right now hovering over you not smothering you, but whispering His love for you and His commitment to you.  He is making His appeal to be in “that” area that has been filled with anger, wounds, disappointments and you can fill in all the other descriptions in your soul. As a matter of fact, why not do that now? Pour out your complaint to Him, click here and read thisRemember a cord of three strands is not easily broken. God is that third strand, so why not give Him your will today and let Him help you and your husband. He wants to use you as a demonstration of His power.

This week…

Read this week’s Be Transformed Devotional and declare your Declarations of Faith in our App. Go back and answer today’s question above. This could be a turning point that you have desired. Remember God is there to help! Don’t leave Him on the sidelines. You weren’t created to do marriage alone. We at The MRS. are here for you and so is God. Download The MRS. App aka MRS. Ministries, so that we can stay connected with our MRS. friends and our online community. Share our MRS. App with other women for their encouragement to strengthen their marriages and future marriages with strategies from God’s Word. This will be just a little reminder to them that they are not alone in their marriages and dating relationships. If you would like prayer for your personal life and marriage, leave your requests on our MRS. Wall on our App or call us at 855-677-2329 or text 626-283-5935 and we will respond to every call or text message left. Really, we will! 


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2 Responses to “Moments with God”

  1. Rosanne Arias says:

    Your message is very inspirational. Although I am not married, it opened my eyes to my part in this relationship when we do get married. I was in many of your classes at Faith Community Church, and you always inspired me. Thank you for your words.

  2. Charlie Ward says:

    I totally agree with you about fear disrupting your life. Eleven years ago it tore a whole in my world. I had this stroke and had to redirect everything. I drop those links in my life that helped me rust my life, I let God come into my life (thanks to you and a friend), I found more love and understanding in my marriage that I had shut out and I found a NEW ME. Power in the positive is very uplifting and believing that the Lord will see you through ALL will make you a better person for ALL.

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